How many times have you looked at someone who has what you’ve always dreamed of, and never imaged you could be there too.
Fear is vital in a situation when you literally need to save your life. But day-to-day fear is like the devil. Fear causes us to stop and focus on the irrelevant. Fear destroys relationships. Fear puts barriers between where we are now and our potential.
The greatest thing about fear, though, is that it’s all in your head, and you have the power to control it. Control is not about controlling others. Setting expectations can only hurt you in the end. Control is about controlling the only thing that you can control; your reactions and emotions towards life.
When we come face to face with fear, it’s too easy to start a fight. Hell, it’s in our nature to defend ourselfs from the dangers of the wild. However, this ”self-defence” is practically useless in today’s day-to-day world. In fact, not only does it instill harm and provokes others moods, but it also poisons ourselves.
Here is how you can rob fear of it’s power instead of letting it rob you of your happiness…
1. Be 100%, undeniably, yourself.
As history progresses, technology is taking away the autonomy of humans. It has become common for the youth of today to follow others instead of being able to have their own opinions and draw their own conclusions. Follow your intuition, but don’t expect it to be clear either. The main thing is that you listen to yourself, and the only way you can do that is by knowing yourself. Commit to your goals.
2. Respect yourself.
Everything happens for a reason. Love yourself for the good, the bad and the ugly. Give yourself time to heal. Keep doing what is good for you. Keep learning from your mistakes. No one else can define what is good for you or what your mistakes are. And it doesn’t matter as long as you are taking care of yourself and growing in a positive direction. Everybody takes the time that they need. You don’t need to apologize for that.
3. Avoid needless suffering.
Don’t be afraid of letting go of comfortable suffering. If everything around you is familiar, then you need a change. All the positive will happen outside of your comfort zone. Most people will go on to justify excuses, but how much do you want to regret your choices in the end? Do you want to spend the rest of your life regretting that you always put everyone else’s needs before your own?
4. The key to being truly happy.
Happiness is not on the outside. You will never, ever be fulfilled by love and commitment from others or from some thing. True happiness comes from inside. Being fair means that you can only really count on yourself. And when things go wrong, accept it. You will be amazed at how magical it feels.
5. Love for real, not on schedule.
Love should flow freely, without expecting anything in return. Love does not require thought, because it is so real it happens naturally. Love gives you life and energy. As long as your life is genuine and without ego, you will attract the people who deserve your love.
6. You are never alone.
You can never make everyone happy, and you cannot expect your happiness to be leached out of others. Stressing over the company that you surround yourself with is a huge waste of time. Drop all the people who make you worry, and who make you feel worthless as an individual. Real relationships with others should be positive, uplifting, and should help you be the best you that you can be. When things don’t work out, just think about the things you learned and how you can grow into a better, stronger and wiser person from the experience, instead of getting down and/or angry about it. Besides, you only ever really need yourself! If you know how to be with yourself, count on yourself, and love yourself, then you will always be A-OK!
Always remember that fear sucks your energy and is absolutely terrified that you will pick it out and throw it away. Realise that you can literally just make it disappear. There are so many paths to that positive place; how will you begin?